The first real mastery towards lasting personal change is Acceptance. This is the first leap of faith you must undertake and it requires honesty on your part. I mean let's face it folks, we are never perfect but accepting that we are not is a crucial step towards self discovery. Accept the fact that there are many aspects in your life you have no power over, but the ones that you do, you have in you the power to change them. Accept the fact that life is indeed short and you are never going to be young again, so do the things you've always wanted to do but didn't have enough time or inclination to. Accept the fact that the people you love won't always be around for you so take the time to tell them how you really feel about them and what they mean to you. More importantly, let them FEEL this. Accept the fact that we all have limitations but not all are weaknesses. They are challenges.
So what do we need to do?
Again, as I have alluded to earlier, nothing is ever simple. Foundations need to be laid down in order to view the big picture you call your life. Don't get bogged down with minute details for these will sort themselves once you realize their place in terms of precedence and priorities. Stability requires a good solid foundation and like everything else that matters and is worth pursuing, this requires time, patience, and commitment.
As you sit in your little stool in the garden of life try to imagine that your four legged stool has legs made up of four basic fundamentals; Clarity of Mind, Singularity in Purpose, Strength in Spirit, An Understanding Heart. Think about these fundamentals for a while and imagine how your life could be made better even if you only acquire a small mastery of these. Once you reflect on these you will realize that they do encompass everything. These are your strengths . How do we nurture these? More on this in future posts....
We cannot really gauge our strengths without uncovering our weaknesses. From now on look at your weaknesses not as flaws or failures but rather as shortcomings, in need of completion. Try to do away with words which carry with them a great sense of negativity. One such word is Failure. There are many reasons why we fail: we may lack a key factor in making something work, we may have misdirected our efforts thus we are not producing the results we want, we may lack motivation in seeing something through, or it can mean we simply didn't know how or even where to begin.
One thing I learned in my life and actually made a habit of is to write down how I feel. Whenever skies are grey and things aren't going where they are supposed to be I write about them on a journal. Only later I find that when I go back to them down the road I begin to understand why. Things become clearer to me. This is how I gauge my life essentially. In my journal I write about many things, actually, but the point is I discover just as many things about myself in the process. Try to do this. Be honest when you do. So, today, try to write. Write about your strengths, your weaknesses, your aspirations, your hopes, your feelings, your thoughts. Sometimes, in our day and age, we fail to connect with the most important person in our lives. Ourselves. So begin.
When you do decide to do this, try to think about the following questions. Ask yourself these questions. Be honest with your answers.
"Am I truly happy?"
"Am I really where I am supposed to be?"
"What could I have done differently yo make my relationships more meaningful?"
"How can I love myself more?"
"Could there be more for me in this life?"
"Why am I afraid to commit or begin?"
" What must I do to change the way I am?"
Be honest now. These are key questions you will be asking yourselves from time to time. Thanks again and do take care of yourselves. Be happy and know that all things come to pass, even sad times.
So what do we need to do?
Again, as I have alluded to earlier, nothing is ever simple. Foundations need to be laid down in order to view the big picture you call your life. Don't get bogged down with minute details for these will sort themselves once you realize their place in terms of precedence and priorities. Stability requires a good solid foundation and like everything else that matters and is worth pursuing, this requires time, patience, and commitment.
As you sit in your little stool in the garden of life try to imagine that your four legged stool has legs made up of four basic fundamentals; Clarity of Mind, Singularity in Purpose, Strength in Spirit, An Understanding Heart. Think about these fundamentals for a while and imagine how your life could be made better even if you only acquire a small mastery of these. Once you reflect on these you will realize that they do encompass everything. These are your strengths . How do we nurture these? More on this in future posts....
We cannot really gauge our strengths without uncovering our weaknesses. From now on look at your weaknesses not as flaws or failures but rather as shortcomings, in need of completion. Try to do away with words which carry with them a great sense of negativity. One such word is Failure. There are many reasons why we fail: we may lack a key factor in making something work, we may have misdirected our efforts thus we are not producing the results we want, we may lack motivation in seeing something through, or it can mean we simply didn't know how or even where to begin.
One thing I learned in my life and actually made a habit of is to write down how I feel. Whenever skies are grey and things aren't going where they are supposed to be I write about them on a journal. Only later I find that when I go back to them down the road I begin to understand why. Things become clearer to me. This is how I gauge my life essentially. In my journal I write about many things, actually, but the point is I discover just as many things about myself in the process. Try to do this. Be honest when you do. So, today, try to write. Write about your strengths, your weaknesses, your aspirations, your hopes, your feelings, your thoughts. Sometimes, in our day and age, we fail to connect with the most important person in our lives. Ourselves. So begin.
When you do decide to do this, try to think about the following questions. Ask yourself these questions. Be honest with your answers.
"Am I truly happy?"
"Am I really where I am supposed to be?"
"What could I have done differently yo make my relationships more meaningful?"
"How can I love myself more?"
"Could there be more for me in this life?"
"Why am I afraid to commit or begin?"
" What must I do to change the way I am?"
Be honest now. These are key questions you will be asking yourselves from time to time. Thanks again and do take care of yourselves. Be happy and know that all things come to pass, even sad times.
Thought for the day: Negative people don't live very long,
so do away with negativity. It's the first step
to having an open mind (",).
so do away with negativity. It's the first step
to having an open mind (",).
