There comes a time in the life of every young man when the opposite sex becomes interesting. High school and college were indeed the days, don't you agree? Well, anyhow, this post is about how to approach the opposite sex ( not the same as asking a girl out to a date but it CAN certainly lead to that).
So let's say you are in your teens and is dying to talk to a girl you have had a long-time crush in. You are being teased by your friends as an instant failure should you even dare to approach the said girl. So there you are, practically a nervous wreck shacking in the knees every time she walks past you in the hallway after homeroom. Day in and day out you live in this fantasy of actually asking her out to a date. Sounds familiar? Well, truth be told that was how I was in high school. I was one of the "geeks" and no girl on her right mind would date a geek let alone be caught talking to one.
Well, all that changed when I learned how to finally ask a girl out. Here's some pointer's for you youngbucks;
1. Look your best and try to stay abreast with today's fashion statements. Nothing gets you more noticed than the way you look.
2. Get a haircut. If you are called "johnny 4-eyes" in your school consider wearing contacts.
3. Talk to her friends and get a general idea of what her preferences are or what she looks for in a guy. If you ask nicely you'll get truthful answers.
4. Behave accordingly. Don't do anything stupid or foolish to make her want to look the other way. Being cool doesn't mean being stupid.
5. Be yourself. Don't be "another" person just to blend in or gain attention. Nothing beats being genuine and true.
6. Make the first move. Approach her casually and don't rehearse your lines and end up saying something foolish or out of the blue ( exposing your nervousness). Try to look for something different or unique about her and comment on that. That usually breaks the ice. Don't resort to what I used to do ( slipping notes in her locker). It's always best to be direct.
7. Let her know you appreciate her and don't drop the bombs on flattery too much because you certainly would be overdoing it.
8. Ask her what her interests are but know them beforehand from her friends. That way you can comment wisely or may even have a common interest with her.
9. Make your first date memorable and special. Set the mood and find a special place. You don't have to be lavish, just a quiet place to talk and get to know each other better.
The funny thing about this post is that it's not what I normally write about in this blog. I read an article the other day about dating and it occurred to me that kids these days are way too liberal. There's a right and proper way to get to know someone and I may be old-school but I think it still starts on trust. It takes time to gain someone's trust. Well, I hope this helps all you young bloods out there. Oh yeah, one more thing, on your first date, don't wear your dad's cologne. Until the next post. take care y'all.
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